As a local councillor, my days are often filled with meetings, paperwork, and making decisions that affect the community. However, today was different. Today, I attended a group not as a councillor, but as a carer. I didn’t know what to expect, but I quickly found myself among a group of people who I could relate to on a personal level. It was a refreshing change of pace and one that left me feeling lighter and recharged.
The group called the Carers and Loved Ones Hub, held at the Victoria Village Hall, and it was open to all carers and their loved ones. I had heard about it through a friend and decided to check it out. I have been a carer for my mother for the past few years, and it can often be an isolating and overwhelming experience. So when I saw the flyer for this weekly group, I knew I had to attend.
Walking into the hall, I was greeted by James Rogers, the organiser of the group. He warmly welcomed me and introduced me to some of the other members. There were people of all ages and backgrounds, but we all shared one common bond – caring for a loved one. As we sat down with our coffees, James explained that the group was created as a safe space for carers to come together, chat, laugh, and offload any struggles or frustrations they may be facing.
I have to admit; I was a bit apprehensive at first. As a councillor, I am used to being in a position of authority and having to maintain a certain level of professionalism. But here, I was just another carer among many. It was a vulnerable position to be in, but as the conversation started flowing, I began to feel more at ease.
We talked about our experiences caring for our loved ones. We also shared moments of laughter as we recounted some of the humorous moments that come with being a carer. It was comforting to know that I wasn’t alone in this journey and that others understood the challenges and triumphs that come with caring for someone.
One thing that struck me was the sense of camaraderie within the group. We were all there to support and uplift each other, and there was no judgment or competition. We were simply a group of people coming together to share our stories and offer a listening ear to those who needed it.
As we talked, I couldn’t help but feel a weight being lifted off my shoulders. Sometimes, as a carer, I get so caught up in my responsibilities that I forget to take care of myself. But in this group, I was reminded that I am not just a carer; I am also a person with my own needs and struggles. And it’s essential to have a support system in place to take care of ourselves as well.
As the two hours flew by, I found myself feeling grateful for this little community that James had created. It’s not easy to open up about the challenges of being a carer, but here, I felt comfortable and understood. I left the group feeling lighter and more energised than when I had arrived.
I want to extend my thanks to James for creating this weekly group and providing a much-needed space for carers like me. It’s easy to get lost in our roles as carers, but coming together in these groups can be a powerful reminder that we are not alone. And I look forward to attending again next week and connecting with this wonderful group of people.
If you are a carer or have a loved one who requires care, I highly recommend checking out your local carers’ groups or support services. It can be daunting to put yourself out there, but the benefits of finding a supportive community are immeasurable. And if you happen to be in the Victoria Village area on a Thursday morning, do drop by the Carers and Loved Ones Hub for a coffee and a chat. Trust me; you won’t regret it.
For more information on the group, you can contact victoriahall.carers.hub@outlook.com. And remember, as carers, we may have many responsibilities, but it’s essential to take care of ourselves too. So don’t be afraid to reach out and connect with others who can offer support and understanding on this journey.
Giles Davies 